Just saw the movie This is 40 with Brando. I don't want to forget how much I relate to that movie right now, so I can look back on this time period in that movie later and realize how far we come. Brando and I figure it has a LOT less to do with the age of the people than the age of the kids. My sister always told me how difficult teenage years are on a marriage, how it can rip marriages apart. I try to hang onto remembering how difficult teenage years are on a marriage every time we go through another episode of a child wanting to be a man, but still wanting a boy at the same time. *Almost* everything in that movie Brando and I could relate to, only switch the guy being overwhelmed by girls with the girl being overwhelmed by boys. The technology issue - totally dealt with. In the process of giving up on that now. Not in a bad way. In a this is the way our kids live these days so I better figure out a way to work around the technology. Like it or not, my kiddos are learning leadership skills, building communities, buildings, and electrically engineering the buildings, and playing with their Dad to boot. Just need to work on the active part. Justinbustin does enough when sports are in season. I just don't like doing activity on my own, but I've got to start. The only time they will do something is when I've already done it on my own. Other thing I relate to is how wonderful time alone is - how it InSTANTLY makes you remember why you fell in love with each other and wonder why things are so crazy and stressed at home, and, also, the exact feeling of 'we're ba-ack' once you pull up the driveway.
As I told Brando tonight, I think I like movies with the word f*ck a lot. I'm laughing as I'm typing, but seriously, they didn't use the word when they weren't fighting or being funny, and that's really exactly what I do. So it's life to me. I almost don't even notice. I remember long ago there was a movie with Mel Gibson that I LOVEd. I recommended the movie to my sis and bro-in-law. Then, they mentioned there was the f word a LOT in that movie. Oops, I didn't even remember. That's also the time I stopped recommending movies to people.
The best part of the movie was the knowing laughs of the couples in the theatre (all exactly exemplifying the title) and the different sexes laughs at different scenes. I tried not to die laughing at the farting scene so I wouldn't be calling Brando out. But seriously. I was DYING laughing. DYING I tell ya.
The music conversation? So had that conversation LAST NIGHT. Took Brando through all the songs I like - he says they're mellow and depressing. He takes me through the music he likes - I say it's annoying as hell. Loved seeing that scene thrown in there. Instantly relatable.
Also? The pregnancy scene? COULD SO FREAKING RELATE. Except, of course, mine ended as a chemical pregnancy. But man the sheer terror, wondering what the f*ck was going to happen. I almost wonder if I ever got pregnant again if I might not tell Brando for awhile just to keep from falling apart again. That would actually do better for me. I'm already not drinking any way. He wouldn't know the difference until we had a few months left haha.
The sex conversation? Okay, well we don't exactly have the conversation like they did, but it's still an issue. I want more sex than he can handle. And you know why? He's stressed as f*ck taking care of his family. And in the moments he happens to not be stressed, he blows my mind. Like last night. Eight orgasms. Um, yeah. But when stress is high? Forgedaboudit.
No, but seriously, as depressing as it sounds, that movie made me feel better about life. If they're making a movie out of all this stress - financial, kids, parents, all of it - that means it's actually way more normal than people talk about. I already realized so, but don't know how to make other people realize so because all the behind-the-scenes is SO NOT talked about. Everybody thinks your prince is supposed to come and take you away. Well, they do. But then life happens. And it's stressful as f*ck. And somehow you get through it any way with a laugh and a f*ck, literal and verbal. And your prince is still there in the end. And THAT's what matters.
Sunday, December 30, 2012
Monday, December 24, 2012
Sunday, December 23, 2012
Life update
*Hilarious to have Justinbustin's European friend over with expanded taste buds getting them to try zucchini cakes and green beans with goat cheese - things I would make any way, but things the boys would normally pass over except for a small bite. They ended up liking them with Justinbustin's friend's encouragement.
*FINALLY saw our Christmas lights tonight. Did our traditional hot cocoa and expanded to apple cider this year, Night Before Christmas street, scoured a new neighborhood for Rudolphs (found five), and drove by the gone viral Gangnam Style Light Show house. He's turned his music and light show off because he had too much traffic, but it was still fun to see the house regardless. Maybe he'll turn the music and light show back on after Christmas.
*Been going through SO much with Shawner's friends. Had a lot of talks with him about friends and their insecurities and being honest with them. He ended up having a talk with one of his friends about how the friend seemed to be like a character in a book the teacher had read them called A Bad Case of Stripes. The girl had stripes that would change colors or patterns depending on what her friends did. When she finally decided to do what she loved (eat lima beans, which nobody else liked) her stripes changed back to her normal color and her constantly red bow changed to rainbow. Shawners had observed his friend liked to do whatever the person next to him would do, and I gently encouraged him to be honest with his friend. I asked Shawners how the friend responded, and Shawners said he said nothing. I silently thanked God because he could've had an ugly response, and nothing is better than anything ugly. I've noted a marked change in this child's attitude around his friends, and even with me, strangely enough. I commended Shawners for his bravery in talking to his friend and noted that a quiet response was better than what could've been, as well as I seemed to notice a change. I am so proud of him. Inspires me.
*Ready to have the girl talk with Justinbustin. His best friend is 'hanging out' with a girl. Justinbustin called her his girlfriend, but I had to correct him and say his Mom would like him to be good friends, and not put pressure on the relationship by giving a label that is purposeless at this point. She said if they are to hang out it needs to be with a group of friends and his Mom or her Mom needs to be there. She talked to him about not needing to be one on one right now and having that pressure that hanging out one on one can create. She talked to him about saying they are good friends so there is not the pressure to only hang out with her and miss out on so much of life at this age. I LOOOOOVE her perspective and am considering adopting the perspective myself for Justinbustin. So interesting having my boys in public school because I want to do some of the things my sister has done with her boys, but they have to be tweaked slightly because my boys are in public school, and sometimes I am not sure how to do it. Justinbustin's best friend's Mom does so beautifully sometimes. I love hearing how she talks so openly about heavy subjects and deals with them head on with her son. All the while openly admitting she is overwhelmed and has no idea what she's doing.
*More later... Room rep, holiday parties, cologne, college, highschool GPAs, to name a few.
*FINALLY saw our Christmas lights tonight. Did our traditional hot cocoa and expanded to apple cider this year, Night Before Christmas street, scoured a new neighborhood for Rudolphs (found five), and drove by the gone viral Gangnam Style Light Show house. He's turned his music and light show off because he had too much traffic, but it was still fun to see the house regardless. Maybe he'll turn the music and light show back on after Christmas.
*Been going through SO much with Shawner's friends. Had a lot of talks with him about friends and their insecurities and being honest with them. He ended up having a talk with one of his friends about how the friend seemed to be like a character in a book the teacher had read them called A Bad Case of Stripes. The girl had stripes that would change colors or patterns depending on what her friends did. When she finally decided to do what she loved (eat lima beans, which nobody else liked) her stripes changed back to her normal color and her constantly red bow changed to rainbow. Shawners had observed his friend liked to do whatever the person next to him would do, and I gently encouraged him to be honest with his friend. I asked Shawners how the friend responded, and Shawners said he said nothing. I silently thanked God because he could've had an ugly response, and nothing is better than anything ugly. I've noted a marked change in this child's attitude around his friends, and even with me, strangely enough. I commended Shawners for his bravery in talking to his friend and noted that a quiet response was better than what could've been, as well as I seemed to notice a change. I am so proud of him. Inspires me.
*Ready to have the girl talk with Justinbustin. His best friend is 'hanging out' with a girl. Justinbustin called her his girlfriend, but I had to correct him and say his Mom would like him to be good friends, and not put pressure on the relationship by giving a label that is purposeless at this point. She said if they are to hang out it needs to be with a group of friends and his Mom or her Mom needs to be there. She talked to him about not needing to be one on one right now and having that pressure that hanging out one on one can create. She talked to him about saying they are good friends so there is not the pressure to only hang out with her and miss out on so much of life at this age. I LOOOOOVE her perspective and am considering adopting the perspective myself for Justinbustin. So interesting having my boys in public school because I want to do some of the things my sister has done with her boys, but they have to be tweaked slightly because my boys are in public school, and sometimes I am not sure how to do it. Justinbustin's best friend's Mom does so beautifully sometimes. I love hearing how she talks so openly about heavy subjects and deals with them head on with her son. All the while openly admitting she is overwhelmed and has no idea what she's doing.
*More later... Room rep, holiday parties, cologne, college, highschool GPAs, to name a few.
Thursday, December 20, 2012
More Steve Jobs
"Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with then, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do."
Think Different, p. 329
"I hate the way people would use slide presentations instead of thinking. People would confront a problem by creating a presentation. I wanted them to engage, to hash things out at the table, rather than show a bunch of slides. People who know what they're talking about don't need PowerPoint."
Think Different, p. 337
"The "i", Jobs later explained, was to emphasize that the devices would be seamlessly integrated with the Internet."
Think Different, p. 338
"Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication," Jobs had aimed for the simplicity that comes from conquering complexities, not ignoring them. "It takes a lot of hard work," he said, "to make something simple, to truly understand the underlying challenges and come up with elegant solutions."
Design Principles, p. 343
Think Different, p. 329
"I hate the way people would use slide presentations instead of thinking. People would confront a problem by creating a presentation. I wanted them to engage, to hash things out at the table, rather than show a bunch of slides. People who know what they're talking about don't need PowerPoint."
Think Different, p. 337
"The "i", Jobs later explained, was to emphasize that the devices would be seamlessly integrated with the Internet."
Think Different, p. 338
"Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication," Jobs had aimed for the simplicity that comes from conquering complexities, not ignoring them. "It takes a lot of hard work," he said, "to make something simple, to truly understand the underlying challenges and come up with elegant solutions."
Design Principles, p. 343
Friday, December 14, 2012
Home sick
I have a permeating sadness about not living in Cali. Not sure if it's just me and the way I feel sometimes or something I need to act on.
Monday, December 10, 2012
Sex life
Really, really love having such an incredible sex life. Nothing like being too busy + out of town and being completely satisfied when the time does come. Taken awhile to get here but man is it worth every part of the journey. True love feels so much better than true lust that wears away. Although I admit that factor wasn't completely off the table in the beginning. Definitely wasn't the deciding factor, though. An amazing man was the decidig factor. And he's proved his worth hahaha. I should go to bed now, I'm sex drunk.
Sunday, December 9, 2012
More Jobs
Finally picked up the book, Jobs' biography, again for the first time since summer. Again, more fantastic quotes I can totally relate to.
"For all of his willfulness and insatiable desire to control things, jobs was indecisive and reticent when he felt unsure about something. He craved perfection, and he was not always good at figuring out how to settle for something less. He did not like to wrestle with complexity or make accommodations. This was true in products, design, and furnishings for the house. It was also true when it came to personal commitments. If he knew for sure a course of action was right, he was unstoppable. But if he had doubts, he sometimes withdrew, preferring not to think about things that did not perfectly suit him... Jobs would go silent and ignore situations that made him uncomfortable."
SO can relate.
"This attitude arose partly out of his tendency to see the world in binary terms. A person was either a hero or a bozo, a product was either amazing or shit."
The Restoration p. 315
Yup. Can relate to that, too. Black and white is most of my world. Learning to see the shades of grey (no, not talking about the book!) - the things that aren't right or wrong but just are.
"At times Jobs displayed a strange mixture of prickliness and neediness. He usually didn't care one iota what people thought of him; he could cut people off and never care to speak to them again. Yet sometimes he also felt a compulsion to explain himself."
The Restoration p. 316
"For all of his willfulness and insatiable desire to control things, jobs was indecisive and reticent when he felt unsure about something. He craved perfection, and he was not always good at figuring out how to settle for something less. He did not like to wrestle with complexity or make accommodations. This was true in products, design, and furnishings for the house. It was also true when it came to personal commitments. If he knew for sure a course of action was right, he was unstoppable. But if he had doubts, he sometimes withdrew, preferring not to think about things that did not perfectly suit him... Jobs would go silent and ignore situations that made him uncomfortable."
SO can relate.
"This attitude arose partly out of his tendency to see the world in binary terms. A person was either a hero or a bozo, a product was either amazing or shit."
The Restoration p. 315
Yup. Can relate to that, too. Black and white is most of my world. Learning to see the shades of grey (no, not talking about the book!) - the things that aren't right or wrong but just are.
"At times Jobs displayed a strange mixture of prickliness and neediness. He usually didn't care one iota what people thought of him; he could cut people off and never care to speak to them again. Yet sometimes he also felt a compulsion to explain himself."
The Restoration p. 316
Thursday, December 6, 2012
Broccoli Rabe
May seriously be my favorite vegetable ever when making this recipe. So delicious.
My review for the recipe from October 3, 2008, which still holds:
Maria's Broccoli Rabe
My review for the recipe from October 3, 2008, which still holds:
Maria's Broccoli Rabe
This was a hundred times better than I thought it would be! We'd had this at our favorite Marble Falls restaurant, Cafe 909, and still remember it four years later. So when I saw it fresh in the store I picked some up in hopes to make something similar. This was above and beyond my expectations! I can't wait to make more. Updated: Made more. Still just as delicious!
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