Shit.

May've just totally put my foot in my mouth.

Sometimes I send "helpful information" out of my own experience that is kind of offensive if the person doesn't see anything in what they are doing.

(I just did that to my bestie was what I was *going to say* before the below happened)

Aaaand cue the reassuring bestie letter in return to my stumbling apologies for dumping that information on her in a FACEBOOK message of all venues. What is it about a bestie that you can show them your very worst uncaring oops that was effen careless side of you and they still forgive you, love you, and treat you like gold? Kind of like a husband. What a blessing in this world that can be so harsh. Ironically, she did the same thing to her boy today. Just like us to both learn the same lesson on the same day. FB messages = not good for anything but lightheartedness. Heavy subjects on personal issues = talked about in person and NOT written down until they're talked out!! Doh.

Update 1/15/2012: FINALLY was able to talk to my hubby about this last night in vague terms without any specifics. Drove me literally CRAZY not being able to talk to him about it. Literally. I spent all day in bed reading and watching the Help and the next day being so cranky I snapped at the drop of a hat and then cried when Brando would mention it had to do with what had gone on with KT, which was the truth, I just kept not realizing how much it was affecting me until he reminded me.  He kept pushing because he realized how much it was affecting me and I realized how I could talk about it to him without saying the specifics of what started the issue. Amazing man that he is and the words that he had to say, resolved the situation almost immediately. As I wrote a friend in an email: "He has such a good view on things that it resolved the situation almost immediately when I repeated what he had said to her. She actually hadn't been mad at all, but things had felt awkward and she said what I needed to hear to realize things were okay after that."