Best Friends

The difference between best friends and friends is friends come and go, but best friends stay forever. You can drift apart, get upset with each other, but in the end you always come back together and and have that easy, enjoyable, laugh your ass off time with each other. Best friends just feel like family and in turn they become like family. When I look at it in that light, I have a lot of best friends. There's really only a few though that I truly call best friend on a day to day basis. This is coming from someone who used to never call anyone best friends because each friend fits a different need in my life, and I in theirs.

But I had a tough conversation with one of my best friends the other day. I had to tell her something I wasn't sure she would like. She was putting boys above friends, even to the point where nobody could count on her anymore to be where she said she would be when she said she would. If a boy issue came up she would flake. Well, any way, I talked to her and told her no boy that asks you to ditch your girlfriend on her birthday is worth your time, and even if you gave him or them a ride (which she did) to ditch his ass and tell him to take a taxi home if he's not going to go along with you to the plans she ALREADY made. Any way, she cried at the end and told me she'd been depressed lately, and hadn't been venting to anyone. I had assumed she was venting to her mom and sister since she'd been spending a lot of time with them as well, but I didn't realize she can't vent everything to them. She thanked me for caring enough to tell her what she NEEDED to hear, then called and apologized to the friend of ours she had ditched on her birthday. Then she texted and said I feel like I have a little bit of me back. Yay! Whew for happy endings!

The friend whose birthday it was described me to her friend as the most genuinely nice person she has ever met, almost too nice. I replied, "I try not to be." I can be too nice. To a friend's detriment even instead of telling them to buck up and do what they need to do. I was glad she made that comment because it reminded me I had been too nice with my other friend and it was time to tell her she needed to cut it out. As a result? We went to a movie last night and I FINALLY met her sister yesterday who's been in town for two weeks and I haven't met due to aforementioned issues. Probably the first time I've hung out with her since then, too.