My childhood and still best friend liked this photo and I had to repost it to explain something about me. This is why I generally don't say I miss you (unless I realize there's absolutely no way I can see you right now even if I bought a plane ticket), also why I don't call you friend. I'll show you I missed you or show you you're my friend. You'll know you're my friend and you'll know I miss you by the effort I make to spend time with you and the lengths I'll go to to make that happen (ie amount of time away from my family, drive time, schedule hopscotching, cost just to get to you, not just seeing you "when I'm free"), not by my words. I've had enough empty words in my life for a lifetime and I have a husband to learn from that proves every word he says or doesn't say through instant action.
...and a random photo from a month ago that I decided to finally text Brando today :) .
I disagree with this. There are many friends of mine that I truly love and miss and make less than 1% effort to see and speak to them. But that doesn't mean I don't truly miss them. Life just gets in the way, and I don't even have kids (yet)! It's shameful how little I see or speak to mer and she lives in the same city...we're just both busy. But I do miss her!
ReplyDeleteHmmm, not that you have to agree with me, but maybe I should clarify. Mer talks all the time about how you do dinner dates at your place with you and your man!! Maybe what I'm talking about is more the acquaintance type who does NOTHING more than call you "friend" or tell you "I miss you" when they haven't seen you in awhile, but makes ZERO other effort EVER, even in a time where lives may have coincided a little easier, and even when you, the other person on the receiving end of the "friend" or "I miss you" makes effort. I totally understand polarizing life schedules at times. However, this text I would like to send to those who call me friend or tell me they miss me, then do nothing when I make effort to see them, and make no effort to see me (if they can, or communicate with me if they can't ie friends and bloggers who don't live nearby) themselves. Does that make a little more sense?
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