Maybe I should've made it an email:
One of the problems with going out as couples is I feel left out when we can't go. Not with you necessarily because I realize I'm always welcome but with others. I suppose I worked that feeling out with hanging out with girlfriends on my own because there's just plenty of times it's not reasonable for me to go. I suppose I can work out those feelings with couples too. I suppose I have to now. It's easier just not going out at all tho lol. [she texted back and said she was confused why I'd feel left out when I can't go]. Since 90% of the time we can't go. For example, tomorrow would be a BLAST especially if Brandon's on board which he seems to be lately BUT we have to make sure things are fun not just for us but for the boysies so that counts us out. So if we're hanging out with couples more but can't go to 90% of the shindigs = feel left out. Make sense? Actually it makes no sense but it's how I feel :) and something I'm struggling with/working thru as we possibly enter a new phase of hanging out with couples more so than we did before any way :D
Another example - liana invited us to something tonight she's invited us to before as a couple and me many times but I/we don't ever go cuz it doesn't start til 10pm and they don't leave til 9pm. We don't have the luxury of sleeping in even on a day off especially on a holiday so that mostly counts us out. I think I've figured out I need to do stuff that are fun and DOES fit our schedule as couples and then invite others along as I did when I started hanging out more with girlfriends, but still working on it obvs :):) . Even drinking bbqs or pool days on the weekend or holidays count us out because we won't take the boys and we won't leave them home all day alone by themselves. We're fine leaving them at night for a little whole but at home during the day during the weekend is sad unless it's for a much needed date for brandon and I!!! Especially to go party hehe. Sorry you're getting the brunt of my thought process - just thinking out loud to mah Kati especially since i don't know if we're going to see each other again this week!!! Ahhhhh!!!
Yeah see? Just checked the LC rocks at Carlos n Charlie's and they start at 10:30 [she'd invited us there tomorrow night]. This is going to make me sound really old but I think we need to find parent couples to hang with. Or just stick with doing our own thing and inviting couples once a week and be okay not going out every other night. Sigh :/ . See my inner confliction? Oy well I'm going to curl up with Brando and our candy in bed with a movie and love my night because I won't be one half of an exhausted couple trying to parent tomorrow hehe :):):)
Also I'm pmsing hard. The ob gyn warned this would be a heavy period but i didnt equate it with pms. And my sister is out of town for fourth of july for the first time ever and we usually spend it with her so I'm a little lost.
And to add more:
When I go out with out Brando I can stay out later because at least one of us is not exhausted. When Brando goes out with me if we both stay out later we're both screwed hence the confliction of staying out late.
Her response, why she's my bestie :) :
(2/6) makes total sense as to why you guys can't go out late! You have an amazing family, and the way you guys do you works for you and your family! No worries [followed with mention of her and her man having to do things with us at earlier hours and several invites to things we didn't end up going to but she realizes I love the thought any way - love her]
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